Sunday, November 11, 2007

Almost left behind.......




Last thursday night, Jenny and I went to go see a speaker named Tim Lahaye, he is the author of the "Left Behind" series. Tim Lahaye is also an expert of Bible Prophecy, we were both looking forward to seeing him speak at Calvary Chapel Downey. By the way, thank you to Dennis and Rhonda for giving us the info on this. Anyway, on our way to the chapel.........my wife and I get into an argument........this is how it went.
I stopped at a gas station to get some fuel when my cell phone started to ring. I answered the call and it was an old friend who was in need of a washer n dryer. I start pumping gas and Jen goes into the quick mart to get some cough drops. When she gets back I'm on the phone. I finish pumping a full tank and we start heading to Downey, I'm still on the phone. I get on the freeway, I'm still on the phone. She picks up her phone and loudly says that I'm being rude, and I need to get off the phone. My friend stops talking because he could hear what she said. I give her "the look", you know...the look, I give her "the look".....so then, she gives me "the look". It's getting hot and I don't have the heater on......I let my friend know that I'll call him back later.

We quickly get into the back and forth thing. I shouldn't be on the phone because this is our time together, our date, I'm being rude, not making her the priority....I'm telling her that what she did was rude, unnecessary, untimely, controlling.....and we go back and forth some more. She apologizes and before I apologize, I explain my position and what I wanted her to take from this experience. She doesn't like the fact that I wasn't apologizing, we are tempted to turn around and head back home, the mood is definitely gone....

Then we discover that where we are heading is definitely spiritual and that we are being spiritually attacked.

Just like that, as if for a quick moment the vail was lifted. I asked her to listen.....I think I know why she was so upset at the phone call. It really was my fault...my fault because for the past couple weeks when I was getting home from work, I was still at work. I wasn't doing those little things at the house and with her to make her know for a fact that she is my priority. I wasn't keeping up with those little things around the house and in our relationship for her to know without a doubt that she is so important to me. So all it took was this one phone call to push her feelings over the edge. I told her if I had not failed to do these things during the past week maybe this phone call wouldn't have been such a big deal. And maybe, this was one of those little things, to tell my friend to call me back later because I want to spend time with my wife. So I finally apologized....and meant it. We had a great time just "unpacking" everything and getting closer. Great speaker, great night, man this relationship thing is work!! But I love my wife so much.....none of us are perfect.






1 comment:

MLasch said...

I love this story. You are so good to recognize what is going on and actually apologize. What a great husband!!